When I first quit drinking, I honestly didn’t know how to manage my friendships in sobriety. I had ruined a few friendships while heavily drinking, made some new friends in rehab, and was trying to figure out how to move forward. Now that I was sober, I had questions about friendship: How do I make new friends? How do I tell my old friends that I am sober now? Can I still socialize in the same ways I used to, with the same friends, or did I need to do something different now that I was in recovery?
All of these questions and more go through our heads after we enter recovery. We simply do not know what to do about friendships in sobriety. But what we do know is that we need friends more than ever. After all, having a strong support system of friends (link to Erin’s piece) has been shown to be helpful in staying sober. In fact, for me, it has been absolutely crucial.
Although it took me a little while to get there, ultimately I did learn how to navigate friendships as part of my recovery journey. I healed those friendships that I had damaged, I “came out” as sober to other friends, and I made new friends — some of whom are sober, too, and all of whom wholeheartedly support my sobriety. That’s why we at The Temper are bringing you a guide on friendship in sobriety.
Below, you will find all of our collected articles on finding friends, nurturing friendships, socializing while sober, and being an ally (which you can send to your friends!). Make sure to save this article, too, as we will continue adding more stories on friendship in sobriety all month long, and well into the future. After all, many of us wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for our friends… but that doesn’t mean we don’t need help on figuring out how to navigate friendships in recovery. Below, you’ll find it all.
Finding Friends in Recovery
- The 4 Kinds of Friends You Need in Recovery
- Where to Meet Friends When You’re Sober
- How to Find Authentic Connections in Recovery
- Finding Your People When You’re Queer and Newly Sober (or Sober Curious)
Nurturing Friendships in Sobriety
- How Strong Friendships Can Support Your Recovery
- What I’ve Learned About the Power of Female Friendships in Sobriety
- How My Friendships Changed After I Recovered From My Eating Disorder
- Why Breaking Up with My Phone Was a Healthy Boost for My Friendships
Socializing While Sober
- 5 Ways to Deal with Being the Only Sober Person in the Room
- How to Set Boundaries in Your Life With People Who Drink
- Fun, Unique and Sober Ways to Socialize During Quarantine
- How to Tell People You Don’t Drink
- 10 Things to Do Off Campus Besides Go to a Bar
- How to Survive Going to a Wedding Sober
On Being an Ally
- 10 Ways to Be the Best Ally to Someone Who’s Struggling With Addiction
- What Not to Say to Someone in Recovery (And What to Say Instead)
- 3 Ways to Support a Friend After They Told You They’ve Decided to Quit Alcohol
- How to Support a Friend with an Eating Disorder
- 4 Reasons to Be Optimistic When a Loved One is Struggling with Addiction