Dear readers,

When I first quit drinking, I honestly didn’t know how to manage my friendships in sobriety. I had ruined a few friendships while heavily drinking, made some new friends in rehab, and was trying to figure out how to move forward. Now that I was sober, I had questions about friendship: How do I make new friends? How do I tell my old friends that I am sober now? Can I still socialize in the same ways I used to, with the same friends, or did I need to do something different now that I was in recovery?

All of these questions and more go through our heads after we enter recovery. We simply do not know what to do about friendships in sobriety. But what we do know is that we need friends more than ever. After all, having a strong support system of friends (link to Erin’s piece) has been shown to be helpful in staying sober. In fact, for me, it has been absolutely crucial.

Although it took me a little while to get there, ultimately I did learn how to navigate friendships as part of my recovery journey. I healed those friendships that I had damaged, I “came out” as sober to other friends, and I made new friends some of whom are sober, too, and all of whom wholeheartedly support my sobriety. That’s why we at The Temper are bringing you a guide on friendship in sobriety.

Below, you will find all of our collected articles on finding friends, nurturing friendships, socializing while sober, and being an ally (which you can send to your friends!). Make sure to save this article, too, as we will continue adding more stories on friendship in sobriety all month long, and well into the future. After all, many of us wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for our friends… but that doesn’t mean we don’t need help on figuring out how to navigate friendships in recovery. Below, you’ll find it all.

Happy Reading!

Finding Friends in Recovery

Nurturing Friendships in Sobriety

Socializing While Sober

On Being an Ally